Just because you’re triggered doesn’t mean you’re not healed
Our bodies remember what our minds try to forget. Even when we’ve done the work, with years of; healing, therapy, energy clearing, wisdom, knowledge, forgiveness, self love and self care, trauma lives in the body. It lingers. And sometimes, it flares up when we least expect it.
Like today.
This whole Coldplay/CEO cheating scandal watching a man lie and juggle lives while smiling for the cameras, brought me right back to something I thought I had long since processed.
It reminded me of my ex. We were together for 11 years. Not just the cheating, but the way he lived several different lives, all behind a mask. One for me. One for his young, “work associate” he was having an affair with for years, one for her family, one for my family, one for his family, one for his boss, one for his other co workers, one for his friends, one for even his (unbeknown) his still WIFE of 20 years. One for the public.
I suppose we all were masks, and that’s for another post. But there are masks, then there are masks!
On his “big boy morning radio show” in a “big market,” he’s probably laughing, probably making light of it all. He says he “has to play the other side for the show, but doesn’t always believe it.” Here again, another mask. No authenticity or personal responsibility at all. Maybe even making comments about me, he’s done it before. As if it’s entertainment. As if it didn’t leave deep cracks and ripples of trauma behind in other human beings.
But here’s what I want to say to you (and remind myself too): I’ve come to learn that’s a “him thing”. And like the CEO and his mistress, karma will find its way. It doesn’t need me to push it.
Feeling triggered doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean you haven’t healed. It doesn’t mean you’re stuck in the past. It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.
It means your body is wise. It means your heart still remembers what it survived. It means there’s another layer asking to be seen.
I’ve studied energy work for over 30 years, and one thing I know for sure is that trauma moves in spirals, not straight lines. We come back to the same wound, but with more awareness, more strength, more tools, and more self-love.
So be gentle with yourself today if something stirred you up.
Scars don’t mean we’re not healed. But sometimes they still ache. And that’s okay.
It’s Friday. It’s hot here in Vegas. I’m mostly happy. But I’m also letting this truth rise up and move through.
That’s healing too.
🤍 With Love, Lisa J.